A joyous can of worms this fruitful topic. Note that I cannot, and frankly don't wish to, speak to the psychic realities of women or of effeminate or bi-sexual men. Of these I happily confess that I am ignorant--as ignorant as these commonly are of masculine men, both homosexual and heterosexual. Colette, I think, was the only woman who ever described (in la Chatte), without unconscious, willful distortion, what the affections of men are like--and, with all her sympathetic objectivity, even she has to say that, from the point of view of a woman, there's something monstrous about them. This (view of men, by women, as an alien or at least inhuman species) is corroborated clearly by infinitely lesser lights than Colette, such as any authoress of 'Romance' fiction that you can name, and by Deborah Tannen, Phd., in all her one-note books about the difference between men and women; notably in You Just Don't Understand: Wherein she notices: that little boys, when asked to sit quietly and talk seriously together, refuse mockingly to do either; and that she can't help finding such little-boyish behaviour unsettling and irritating (especially in contrast to the behaviour of little girls who obligingly do as they're asked); and that men invariably find the raucous insubordination of little boys cute (while finding the corresponding docile obedience of little girls contemptible). Dr. Tannen admits to being mystified by this glimpse into the world of boys and men--and she knows that it means something; but she's not sure, and really doesn't care, what it is.