"Sexual Sadism"?

I'm reading about JFK's sexual exploits--there's a flood of information about it lately--Our disapproving, nay pained, young authoress was describing how JFK not only liked lots of sex with a lot of different (but always female) bimbos, but he would also get blow-jobs from these, and then watch while they gave blow-jobs to his fellow male orgiasts (which was as close as he ever got, apparently, to having gay sex):  This our young Caitlyn calls "Sexual Sadism."  A very popular, much-used term these days among heterosexual women, and absolutely incomprehensible to me--until, with a bit of googling, I discovered that, besides Pain, what Sexual Sadists are supposed to inflict on their Victims/Objects is Humiliation.  And that, Humiliated, with connotations of being Used and Dominated, is what Miss Caitlyn, or any other right-thinking young women would feel if she were made (coerced by your ineffable male dominance) to fellate a buddy of yours while you watch.  I'm sooooo glad I'm gay and don't have to think about that--because what she means is that:  She imagines (i.e., she believes with the utter conviction of overmastering delusion) that being ritually humiliated--and she can't believe that "being forced" to give somebody a blow-job while his buddy watches is anything other than the most abject humiliation--is mental torture which hurts her soul (or psyche) in some (real but unspecifiable) way equivalent to what it would be to have a few square inches of her skin pealed back and flaming ethanol dropped on the bleeding wound:  Sexual Sadism.  I, of course, give not a tinker's damn what the Caitlyns of this world believe, or wish to believe--but for the fact that they project their lunacies on the rest of the world, and refuse to disbelieve that men, and boys,  do not share their preposterous views, and so they do much, grievous harm.